Okay, just yesterday I watched a short wedding video of the newlywed couple Kyla and Rich Alvarez.
To put it in context, Kyla was one of my very few crushes in the local showbiz before. HAHA
She sings very well, and she sings from the heart.
You know, I am really biased, and am more gravitated to those kind of performers. My belief is that if they can easily deliver songs from the heart, then it’s equally natural for them to do anything from the same heart, loving included. HAHA
You can watch their cute video below!
The video shows Rich saying many times to Kyle “I am ready to love you”.
I am quite moved by the message after hearing it several times, so I thought of writing a short reflection on it.
I hope the new couple wouldn’t mind me doing this.
Let’s try to peel and feel more his short but complete message (at least for me):
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What a remarkable way of beginning a solemn declaration!
Rich starts by pointing first to himself.
This assumes self-accountability. It clears the window while taking on a great responsibility for the upcoming marriage to work. People are tempted to point fingers whenever there’s a slight error popping out, so having that initiative to move in oneself is a big step in itself.
A good marriage definitely needs the effort of both parties, but one side saying he’s ready for the new commitment is such a giant leap to begin with.
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Here comes the verb – the action word.
Self-responsibility will never be enough. Action, more than knowledge, is the real power that makes a relationship lasts. This part personates the liability mentioned above, believing that it requires bold and concrete action more than any flowery but empty words.
READY
This is my favorite part, because there’s a manly act of admission here. Of course we know that Kyla has been loved by Rich even before that special day. But because of this confession, Rich should have come to a point that sent him a message on a different leveled-up meaning of love.
He might have realized that, from the time they first met until the point before they walk down the aisle facing God at the presence of all the people who matter to them, he has not really understood what it actually means to love her.
How he did come to that realization and what conclusion that is, is a separate interesting story altogether. Hmmm.. I think I want to experience that.
TO
Then the direction. Because action should always have a direction with it.
A force is defined by its direction, an engineer would always say. Without direction, there will never be enough reason to continue. There is neither reason to begin in the first place.
Just as knowing where you’re going away from, it’s imperative to know where you're actually heading to.
Just as knowing where you’re going away from, it’s imperative to know where you're actually heading to.
Thus it prepares the way for the purpose, for that clarity of all the future actions. Clarity of purpose is power as it instantly makes 99% of all life decisions for both of you.
LOVE
Now comes the spring of the relationship. Needless to say, love will forever be the most powerful force on earth – one that keeps the tie knot. Everything should be simply done out of love.
YOU
Finally, the ultimate object of all the previous parts.
In the same way that this word ends the promise, all the next plans and subsequent actions should always reflect on the end point of all the consequences, who is that special person with whom you’ll make your greatest vow.
So have that effort to always make that lovely angel feel like she’s the unofficial princess of all creation.
That’s it!
Why Wedding???
On a side note, of all the possible life occasions, it’s the wedding celebration with which I am truly hooked. HAHA
I am just greatly amazed of the mystery of union of two creatures who were once complete strangers in the same planet for such a long time, only to find out that their life is designed and destined to be shared with someone else.
It's like heaven is being slowly brought down to earth whenever I see two people vowing to love each other forever. (Now that's quite mushy of me.. )
It's like heaven is being slowly brought down to earth whenever I see two people vowing to love each other forever. (Now that's quite mushy of me.. )
It’s inevitably a big, if not the biggest, decision you’ll ever make.
It instantly transforms your life moving forward, hopefully for a more rewarding life even though trying most of the times.
It’s also the sole celebration where the couple has enough and complete knowledge of making that crucial decision with life-long-impact for themselves.
One cannot control the day of his birthday, the mother to give birth, the kind of family to be entered. Unless one commits suicide, one can’t also run the way of his death and the people with him in that tragic moment.
But marriage is something you can be completely in-charge of - the church, the ceremony, the date, the celebrants and of course the partner.
In other words, it’s the only celebration we can literally create right from our exact thoughts.
This is also the lone event where the all the people who greatly matter and dear to us gather together and join us in this solemn festivity. The next similar occasion I think of would then be our funeral.
So be extra careful in picking that person with whom you’ll stick your commitment.
The bible interestingly says something like that :
Proverbs 25:24 (NIV) Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
The bible interestingly says something like that :
Proverbs 25:24 (NIV) Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
There you go! So make sure to make the most out of it!
Happy loving my friend!
- oMeNg -
- oMeNg -
PS:
Speaking of marriage and choosing that lucky partner, the movie No Strings Attached has this line mentioned:
“The worst thing you can do in life is to say NO to love.”
But can we really pick that person with whom we’ll fall in love? What do you think?
Can’t just anyone be ready for that special colorful phase of this life?
HAHA.
HAHA.
Now that’s luuuuv!
